Scheana Shay is a television personality, actress, podcast host, and singer. She is perhaps best known for starring on the reality tv series Vanderpump Rules. The show follows the lives of servers at SUR and TomTom, restaurants owned by Lisa Vanderpump and her husband, Ken Todd. On the show, Shay has been open about her fertility journey.
Shay also has a podcast called Scheananigans with Scheana Shay and on her most recent episode, Shay revealed that she recently found out that she was pregnant and expecting with her boyfriend Brock Davies.
The episode is called "It’s Not Always Sunshine and Rainbows" and in it, Shay opens up, revealing that her first pregnancy had resulted in a miscarriage. A miscarriage (also called early pregnancy loss) is when a baby dies in the womb (uterus) before 20 weeks of pregnancy.
"I have always been an open book and I've always told you everything going on in my life and so many of you have followed me on my fertility journey over the last year and a half and this is a part of it. It's just a sad part," she explained while holding back tears. "A few weeks ago, we found out that I was pregnant."
Shay was cautious but excited. After taking 5 home pregnancy tests and confirming with a doctor, she shared the news with her mother and sister.
She then found out that her fellow castmate Stassi Schroeder was pregnant too. However, Shay was keeping her own pregnancy under wraps. "I was only five weeks so I wasn't telling anyone. I wanted to keep it a secret until it was safe to tell people."
Shay and her boyfriend planned a special surprise for her dad on Father's Day, to tell him the good news, though she decided to wait and post it in the coming weeks.
Sadly, Shay began bleeding and when she went to the doctor, he confirmed the worst. There was no heartbeat and "nothing was progressing."
"There were parts that he could see where [the fetus] was starting to form and it just didn't," she explained. "So obviously, [it was] just devastating. We were so excited. To be excited for a few weeks and then it's gone so quickly.
She shares with podcast listeners that although it has been a lot to process, she is still at home and is waiting to naturally miscarry. "Although this one isn't working out and we don't know yet what's exactly going to happen, I know that I was able to get pregnant on my own and that is a miracle."
Although this is a difficult time for them, Shay is trying to stay positive. She wants to share her story because although this pregnancy didn't happen, a miracle did happen, she was able to get pregnant for the first time in her life.
"And although this one isn't working out and we don't know yet what's exactly gonna happen, I know that I was able to get pregnant on my own, and that alone is a miracle. And I know that this is something that's common, that so many women go through."
According to March of Dimes , as many as half of all pregnancies may end in miscarriage. We don’t know the exact number because a miscarriage may happen before a woman knows she’s pregnant. Most women who miscarry go on to have a healthy pregnancy later.